ROLLER COASTERS CAN BE FUN
Here is my picture of the last two days of “doing the do” (-; Let’s talk about asking. Let’s talk about reaching out to others who don’t understand what the heck we’re doing and the emotional roller coaster ride it can take us on until we break through to personal freedom. Does this feel familiar?
I lovingly ask someone to take a second look at something she wouldn’t listen to 8 months ago, and she says okay. Up Up Up I go! I share with somebody the big picture who then gets excited and grateful that this could be an answer to her financial fears! OMG… we’re getting to the top, I can see everything from up here! I get caught in a weird energetic power struggle with someone… trying to convince her that this isn’t what she thinks it is. She has to get off the phone, I feel icky, she feels icky. I wind up sending a text: “I’m sorry to go on and on about this, I am just overly excited”. Elizabeth, what are you doing? You know better than that! Whooosh, down I go. Calls come in and people are excited and inspired and sharing with others who are now getting excited and inspired as well, and I zoom back up! And on it goes… “I like it!” Yay! “I’m not interested” Ahhhhh! “I love this stuff” WOOO HOOO! “Please tell me this isn’t one of those things” OH NO. LOOP DE LOOP! Day over… Whew! What a ride!
What is this emotional roller coaster we climb onto when we try to share with others something that is important to us? And this goes beyond business. What happens to actors when auditioning, writers presenting their work, students’ offering their work to the teacher, workers presenting to the boss? Why does our joy, peace, and the validity of what we are doing depend on what “they” think about it? If our own minds are often critical and not always rooted in some beautiful truth, wouldn’t it follow that their minds might be much the same?
We are sensitive beings. Sometimes that works for us, sometimes not. I believe that sometimes we share something important and we start to feel their fear, or doubt, or impatience. We actually feel or hear their fear and the problem is, we think it’s our own. Then we get scared too, or doubtful, or just want to get off the ride altogether.
What if we made a commitment to love and honor ourselves and what we’re choosing to do? What if we learned to celebrate our own possibilities, and hold a loving and safe space for everyone else, no matter what their reaction is?
What if we went in to give, and not to get… and what if the only thoughts that really mattered were the ones in your own head? Those are thoughts we can work with. If they’re scared, we think patience. If they’re critical, we think compassion. It they’re not ready, we love them anyway and move on, because someone is waiting for all that we have to bring.
Here is the proposal of the day. Let’s make it our goal to bring love, joy, and well being to whoever we speak to today…. If we are to be luminaries… we have to practice bringing light into dark places and holding it high rather than snuffing it out as soon as someone sneezes.
Please post this up somewhere where you can see it… it is from Shad Helmstetter:
HELPING CHANGE LIVES FOR THE BETTER TAKES DRIVE, BELIEF, DETERMINATION, AND A WILLINGNESS TO STAY WITH IT NO MATTER WHAT! NO ONLY MEANS NOT NOW. WHEN SOMEONE TELLS YOU NO, IT IS NEVER ABOUT YOU. IT IS A SIGN THAT THEY MAY NEED MORE INFORMATION… MAY NOT FULLY UNDERSTAND… CANNOT YET SEE THE BIG PICTURE… OR IS UNCONSCIOUSLY AFRAID TO PROCEED, BUT A NO HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU.
AND FOR THE RECORD… IT DOES GET EASIER. I’m going to get off the roller coaster for a while, and head over to The Magic Kingdom! Want to come? I am grateful you are on this journey with me!
With love and so much respect, Elizabeth